The waiting game....it's supposed to be the exciting part of the adoption process. You have finally finished your home study, found a child that you see as a part of your family, the excitement builds, right?!
No.
The waiting game is seriously the worst part of the adoption process. The worst. And here I thought that the waiting to get approval of your home study was the worst. Ha! So very wrong I was.
Jeff and I have been in the "selection" process since July. We "almost had our world change", but this time is a little different. This time I feel is the perfect storm. We got a call on a Friday. A match that is exactly what Jeff and I both want AND a situation where the social worker would place as soon as possible.
As. Soon. As. Possible.
I begin to prepare for the possibility of our family expanding. Getting my "feelers" out there so to speak, on clothes, furniture, schools, daycare, etc just in case. I even create a book for our future child!
That was about two weeks ago.
I have checked in with our social worker (who is amazing) and sometimes these things that are to happen ASAP, don't. Other things pop up, everyone can't get together that needs to be there for placement, yadda yadda, yadda. I get that. It just puts a huge strain on Jeff and me as we wait.
The thing is, although we try NOT to get attached, we do. We can't help it. Jeff and I have wanted to be parents for so long, that this moment, opportunity, this child, in our minds is already a part of the family. We want to help him or her, Know how he or she is doing, who is caring for him or her, etc. Jeff and I become parents even before knowing the child.
That was about two weeks ago. I have checked in with our social worker (who is amazing) and sometimes these things that are to happen ASAP, don't. Other things pop up, everyone can't get together that needs to be there for placement, yadda yadda, yadda. I get that. It just puts a huge strain on Jeff and me as we wait.
The thing is, although we try NOT to get attached, we do. We can't help it. Jeff and I have wanted to be parents for so long, that this moment, opportunity, this child, in our minds is already a part of the family. We want to help him or her, Know how he or she is doing, who is caring for him or her, etc. Jeff and I become parents even before knowing the child.
I guess it is the unknown that is difficult. We don't know if we will be parents this time around or the next. If we need to go shopping or wait longer for the child that is to be ours.
But we will continue to "patiently" wait until we hear the "yay" or "nay".....
But we will continue to "patiently" wait until we hear the "yay" or "nay".....
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